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Doing What it Takes

Doing What it Takes

I’ve been backsliding a little.

As the Holidays approach, I’ve found myself getting distracted; not by holiday shopping or baking cookies, but rather just by the desire to chill out and join my friends in “taking a vacation” from everything. In a different period of my life, I would have been going to office holiday parties, having eggnog at the office and just generally getting into the “time off” mood.

As a self-employed person, my life is different now. But I still find myself wanting to slow down, and get ready for a series of days off from work.

This morning, I reminded myself that I need to do a bit more before I can relax with my friends. There are a few more tasks I must accomplish and the attitude I need right now is: “do what it takes” to get them done.

I used to think “doing what it takes” meant I had to martyr myself to my business. I would say things like, “I’m doing everything I can think of” and “I’m working *so* hard!”

But the truth is, I wasn’t doing *everything* I could; there is so much more I can do than simply what *I* can think of to do. Telling myself these things gave me an excuse feel sorry for myself. And then it allowed the vicious cycle of beating myself up for not accomplishing to kick in, which ultimately leads to avoidance. With a touch of anger and frustration.

And while I do have strong work ethic, I’m learning that effort-ful striving is not necessarily the same thing as working to accomplish something.

What does lead to accomplishment – real, tangible, meat and potatoes accomplishment – is not striving; it is the process of blending your doing with your being. As a Creative, I can tell myself all day long that I just want to “be myself” and do what I love. I just want to share my gifts with the world. That’s great! But without the doing part, without taking action on those gifts, I end up sitting in my proverbial garret, waiting for a Prince Charming to come buy my services and creative work. And then crying out: “but I’m doing everything I can think of to do!”

There is so much more that I can do than simply what I can think of. (See my posts: “Get A Proselytizer” and “Seeking Creative Community”) Finding and connecting with people in your industry, or one like it, can go a long way towards helping you brainstorm new and different ways to approach your business and life’s work.

There was an article floating around on my Facebook feed recently from Cracked.com: “6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person” and although I don’t agree wholeheartedly with everything the author said, there were definitely a couple of good nuggets in there. The main thrust of that article was Do What It Takes to become the *better* person – the person you truly want to be in the world.

“the sheer act of practicing will help you come out of your shell [...]People quit because it takes too long to see results, because they can’t figure out that the process is the result.”

“Don’t get me wrong; who you are inside is everything — the guy who built a house for his family from scratch did it because of who he was inside [...] — ‘who you are inside’ is the metaphorical dirt from which your fruit grows.”
Read more: http://www.cracked.com/blog/6-harsh-truths-that-will-make-you-better-person_p2/#ixzz2Fhx0QntF

So, thinking about that: the process IS the result, and who you are (what mindset you’re coming from) IS the dirt from which your work grows, I find myself more determined to Do What It Takes. Not to flail about looking for some magical answer to how to grow my business, (and don’t even get me started on how to grow my business the *right* way…) but rather to take regular, even daily, steps to learn more, risk more, practice more. To Do What It Takes, not just what I *think* it will take.

(PS: WordPress is still giving me trouble; I can’t insert pictures or links into my posts. I’m working with my site admin on this, so thanks for your patience!)

Get a Proselytizer!

Get a Proselytizer!

Day 7 of 30 Days of Imperfection…

The other night I was at a birthday party, when I walked into a room to hear another friend telling the assembled people about this great thing a friend of hers was doing- blogging for 30 days on the topic of Imperfection! At first I thought she might’ve been talking about someone else; several people I know are taking part in this challenge.

But no, she was gushing about me.

What an odd feeling. To witness from a distance as someone you know becomes a proselytizer on your behalf!

Of course, she saw me enter the room and grabbed me by the arm to introduce me to the person she was chatting up.

There was a moment of truth for me. Usually, traditionally, I would have ducked my chin and said something like; “Oh, that wasn’t my idea…” or “I’m just doing it because someone I know invited me to,” or something equally dismissive about myself.

I’m not shy, by any means – ask my friends! But I’ve spent much of my life unable to truly receive a compliment, as though I were somehow an impostor. Like it wasn’t really me who did that cool thing, or worked so hard, or took that risk. If only they knew that I was not really that smart, or not that capable. Either that, or they’re just being *nice*.

But this time, instead, I chose to stand up straight and smile warmly at the person. To thank my friend for reading my posts and say, “I’m glad you like them!” To allow myself to embrace my own achievement. To then pursue a brief conversation with the newcomer about what I do.

Have you ever had that conundrum? Been faced square on with someone praising you upside and down in front of others and feel a moment of denial, like “that can’t be *me* they’re talking about, can it?”

What do you usually do? What do you really *want* to do?

Can you imagine gracefully accepting the compliment, the kudos?

Boy, it can sure feel good to be complimented like that. Get yourself a proselytizer – they’re a real boost!